Why I won't be working with EdenFantasys anymore.

I used to think wonderful things about EdenFantasys. They were back by a blogger whom I completely trusted and I loved that you could read real person reviews to see what people really thought of their products. And so I was more than happy to partner with them, to buy my products from them, and to review for them.

Then they seriously let down Always Aroused Girl, the blogger whom had led me to them in the first place. Then I found out that despite their promises, they weren't matching donations for The Butterfly Temptress. To promise to help a woman who may be dying of cancer, and then to back out on that promise?! Seems pretty shitty to me.

Then there was the whole fiasco with the New York City Sex Bloggers Calendar where, after agreeing to sponsor the calendar, they backed out of yet another deal, instead offering up a mere pittance (which was refused and instead the wonderful people at njoy stepped up).
At this point, I had decided to finish out my final reviews and end my relationship with EdenFantasys, but to do it quietly, and without making a big fuss.

Then I saw this. Apparently, and hopefully inadvertantly, a spreadsheet of data was released where anyone could access it. This information contained bloggers' personal information - pretty much anyone who had ever reviewed for EdenFantasys, their information was on that list. My information was on that list.

And to me, that is the final straw.
I wrote this letter to Fred Petrenko, owner of EdenFantasys.
"Hello Mr. Petrenko,
It is my understanding that EdenFantasys is your company and therefore your responsibility. I have had concerns working with EdenFantasy ever since your company screwed over Always Aroused Girl, and those only grew when I heard that you had backed out of matching funds for The Butterfly Temptress. I don't even want to get into the fiasco with the New York Sex Bloggers Calendar. Needless to say, I have been choosing to work with and purchase from other companies who maintain better relationships among the sex blogging community.
However this latest incident is truly the final straw. Am I to understand that your company has somehow released my personal information and the personal information of anyone who has ever reviewed for EdenFantasys in a spreadsheet that can be accessed by the public at large?! I understand that the spreadsheet has since been taken down once you were notified about it, but I also know that my personal information was on that spreadsheet and available to be seen by anyone who could access it.
I think it is bad enough that any company should release the information of its customers where it could be accessed by the public, but for a company that deals in items of a personal and intimate nature. I wouldn't blame people for never wanting to shop with you ever, ever again.
I think this is just awful. EdenFantasys used to have a solid reputation as an excellent store whose customer reviews made it one of the best on the market. To see how far bad business practices have taken it...I certainly hope that this might finally be a wakeup call. As for me, I will be severing all of my connections with your company. Broadcasting my personal information for anyone to see it is something that no customer should ever have to put up with - I certainly will not.
Thank you.
Thursday's Child"

To me, this would be unacceptable if it were any store. To make your customers' information accessible to the public? It violates almost any basic privacy agreement - it certainly violates EdenFantasys' so called commitment to your privacy.

And so, I am done with them. Finished. I don't want to work with a company who can't be bothered to protect my personal information. I've already sent the letter above, and I'll be contacting them to resolve the final few reviews that I had in the works for them. But I won't be working with them ever again, and if you partner with them, work with them, or buy from them, you might want to take another look at that relationship and make sure that what happened to me isn't happening to you.

Sometimes You Find You Get What You Need

No idea who the picture belongs to, but thank you to the Rolling Stones for the title...and in case you follow me on twitter - this is from last night...

Waking up from an arousing dream where I am a frustrated office working daydreaming in my cubicle. Drowsy and still clinging onto half remembered sensations, I nuzzle into him, pressing my lower body against him, sleepily kissing on his neck and shoulder.

Still not quite awake, I whisper snippets of what I can remember into his ear, feeling him grow still against me as he enters waking consciousness and sleep turns to arousal.

He starts with my nipples, pulling and tugging the hard bud, first with his fingers. Pulling hard enough to hurt, the pain inflames my lust and instead of crying out, I start to make sounds not unlike purring. His mouth follows his fingers, then his mouth on my right breast while his fingers pluck at my other nipple pulling it into a hard peak.

I writhe beneath him, pressing my hips against his body, pleading through my actions, and though he takes his time with me, it is not long before my panties are drawn off and my legs spread for him. I'm syrupy wet and fragrant - there's no need for foreplay and confronted with evidence of my obvious arousal, his fingers slide deep inside me, pressing that swollen spot inside, rubbing and pressing until the first of many orgasms overtakes me and I keen softly into his chest. He is not satisfied, and another follows, then another, until I am bucking beneath him while he tugs on my engorged clit, all the while rubbing that magical spot.

He pulls me over his lap, his hard cock pressing into the soft flesh of my belly, pushes my head down so my ass is up in the air. The spanking should hurt, but instead of crying out, I moan with each blow. He works the sweet spot right above where my thighs meet, and I press into his hand, meeting his hand, needing what he offers.

He pulls me back, pushing my head down towards his feet so that I'm splayed open over his legs, everything revealed. He prepares my tight hole, the lube cool against the heated skin, then the metal plug pushes in smoothly and I moan as I accept it within me. But he's not done. Pulling my lips wide, he slips in the Smartballs, sealing them deep inside me. Filled in both orifices, I moan into the bed, the sensations making it hard to think.

He pulls me to my feet, and I get dressed. Shaking my head hard, trying to clear the lust fog and concentrate at the task at hand. Mundane daily tasks, walking the dogs, things that must be done, but with the heavy plug inside me, the motion of my hips making me aware of it with every step and the little vibrating balls working their magic until I can feel my slickness dripping down between my lips. He laughs, spanking my ass through the jeans, feeling the base of the plug and pushing on it. I lean against him, my hot forehead against his cool coat, and moan into his neck, pleading to go back to the house, not knowing how much more I can take. I am already so inflamed...

We go back, and as soon as we're inside, the door locked behind me, I'm pulling my clothes off and throwing them haphazardly on the floor until I'm naked. He's already on the bed, sitting up against the pillows at the headboard, cock semihard, watching me with smouldering eyes. Then my mouth is on him while he plays with my ass, pressing the plug in deeper to watch my hips buck. He pulls me off briefly, to pull on the silicone cockring, then I'm devouring him, tasting him greedily, trying to take every last inch into my mouth while he hardens until the veins and ridges stand out like cut glass, and I cannot wait to have him inside me.

On my knees before him, he hovers over me momentarily, trying to decide between my ass and my cunt. I remind him of the weekend's upcoming festivities, and he pulls the Smartballs out of me, tossing them aside before burying his shaft inside me, fully, to the hilt, and I cannot stay still beneath him, hips grinding, ass moving, back arching, all to preserve the fullness, the feelings building.

He fucks me hard, at one point, his fist in my hair pulling my head back to accentuate the arch of my back, then he's coming inside me, so scalding hot and deep. I'm so close, still riding that perpetual edge, not wanting to lose the intensity that comes right before orgasm. We lay together, my hips against his side, unable to keep still, they still bounce and writhe.

I beg, I plead. It's no longer a question of what I want. It's desperation, something I need, now. He pulls out the new Curve, slides it inside me, and the first stroke presses just right and already I'm coming, hips bucking as the pleasure overtakes me then it's too much and I'm almost crying because I can't stand it. I slow his hand, and slide my hand behind me to pop the plug out. It's too much, I tell him, too much, and he gives me a look that tells me that there will be a next time with both, but then he's moving the Curve in and out of me, smoothly, gliding, and it's like there's screaming inside my head as my pussy gushes, contracting, clenching, over and over, and I can't stop begging for just one more, then just one more, then just one more until I'm exhausted, spent, deliciously bruised and exhausted, laying in a puddle of my own juices and I cannot take anything more because I am finally satisfied.

The Lube Project - Part 1

Warming, cooling, tingling, enhancing, sensitizing, lasting… With all of the different arousal lubes on the market these days, it can get pretty confusing! The lovely people at EdenFantasys sent five bloggers five different lubes to put through a stringent series of testing to see which lube would come out on top! Yours truly was selected at one of the five bloggers, and after many sessions of rigorous testing...here is my first review!



I've been wanting to try the new line of Climax bursts lubricants by Topco ever since they first appeared on the market. Each lube features tiny capsules suspended within the lubricant that are supposed to pop on contact, adding a little something extra to the experience. I tried the Climax Bursts Aphrodisiac Enhanced whose tiny beads contain vitamin E and natural herbal aphrodisiacs like Yohimbe and Horny Goatweed.

First of all, I just want to say that I love the packaging. After dealing with slippery fingers and slippery lids, I wondered why more lubes don't come packaged like this. Simply pop the ring up and squeeze to get the perfect amount of lube. When you're finished, just pop the ring back down to seal the bottle. So much easier to do with lube slippery fingers than screwing and unscrewing lids or trying to get a grip on flip-top containers.

I wasn't sure about the tiny microbeads. Having had bad experiences with products containing microbeads, I wasn't sure how they would work in a lube. But, the magic word turned out to be "micro". Since the beads were so tiny, they popped on contact without leaving any noticable plastic shell or residue behind. And since this lube is water-based and glycerin-free, I was able to try it out with my favorite silicone toys. While I love the silkiness of silicone lubes, I hate not being able to use them with the majority of my toys.

I don't know about the aphrodisiac effects...we tried the lube in various configurations, but we didn't really notice any additional aphrodisiac effect. The lube was nice and silky and stayed slick for as long as we needed it through both vaginal and anal sex- in fact, it's one of the lubes that we reach for most frequently on our nightstand, though that's really because of the easy to use container rather than any additional oomph that it provides.

So, overall, Climax Bursts Aphrodisiac enhanced was a pretty good lube, easy to use and compatible with the majority of my toys, but I'm not sure that it added anything additional through anything aphrodisiac.

Stay tuned for the next installment of The Lube Project when I review ID Pleasure Lubricant and see which lube comes out on top in the end!

Sex and Intimacy

The relationship between sex and intimacy has long fascinated me. For some, it seems intrinsically connected, for others unseparable. For still others, sex is one thing while intimacy is something wholly different.

I'm interested in finding out how others feel about sex and intimacy. If you are interested in participating in a short questionnaire/interview, please leave me a comment. I'm currently compiling questions and you should receive them by the end of this week. If you've already contacted me via twitter, then I already have your name and information. I'd like to gather as many different points of views as possible to gain a better personal understanding of how people reconcile sex and intimacy, and I'll publish the answers/responses here to share with everyone.

So, if you're interested, just leave me a comment, and if you know anyone else who might be interested in participating, please spread the word!

Sugasm #152

Photo courtesy of An unassuming girl.

I made editor's choice this week! Thank you so much - that post meant a lot to me and I'm glad to see it resonated with others. Thanks, Radical Vixen!

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #153? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Sugarbutch Star: Maze - The Girl in the Red Dress
“She’s the kind of girl who brings out the worst in me.”

treat or … fuck
“He looked like I had just given him a car for Christmas and he gently took my hand and led me upstairs. ”

A Life Exposed and Amplified
“We were breaking the rules and being dirty.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
I told him I loved him. He gave me a pen.

More Sugasm

Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Happy Love Our Lurkers Day III!

Because I was, once upon a time, a lurker, too...


I can still remember the first time I decided to leave a comment on someone's blog. I'm not positive, but I think it may have been Deity's blog. That simple act of announcing my presence, emerging from the ether eventually prompted me to start my own blog. That first comment, I don't think I had any idea of what I was unleashing - I don't think I knew what potential lay within me.

So to all those other lurkers out there, you know who you are, I wish each and every single one of you a Happy Love Our Lurkers Day. I just want you to know, that even in your silence, I appreciate your presence - it makes me feel so wonderful each and every day to know that my words are touching another life somewhere out there.

But today, even just for today, I ask all of you to leave a comment. Whether it be a single word, hell, even a single character, anything at all - I just want to know who's out there...show me who you are, if only for today!

And to all the others, those who regularly read and comment, those who have emailed and messaged me to let me know that I have touched their lives in some small way - thank you, each and everyone of you. It is also for you that I write my blog - please know you are appreciated!

And thank you to Bonnie of My Bottom Smarts, for reminding of to appreciate our readers, every single one of them!

Pleasure Parade: Pleasurists #3

No idea where this image came from...if you know please let me know so I can credit the photographer.

Pleasurists #3

Adult product reviews from the last seven days from all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #2? Read it all here. Do you Have a review for Pleasurists #4? Submit it here before Sunday November 16th at 11:59pm PST. Please re-post this list on your own blogs if listed.

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

Betty’s Blog-A-Versary Swag Contest deadline November 19th

Bondage Photo Contest deadline November 25th

On to the reviews…

Editor’s Pick
Leo - A Sex “Toy Review by N

As we were looking around, I spotted him. “He” stood 7″ inches with 1-½” girth and was perfectly poised on the intricately designed shelfing unit. I almost blushed and forgot all about the girl I came in with.”

Madame Editrix
Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek

Vibrators
Citron Florentine by Ansley Agnello
Sweet G! First Babeland review by Panthera Pardus
Review: Wahl 7-in-1 by Wendy Blackheart
The Smurfator and a Sexual History (G-Twist) by Elle of Kink Unleashed
Catalina Loves the We-Vibe by Catalina Loves
The Lelo Gigi by Ellie Lumpesse

Dildos
Ella by Ansley Agnello
Fuck it like an 80’s metal band groupie (Iron Maiden dildo) by Bad Bad Girl
Celestial Perfection by Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek
Soju Sugar Dildo by Betty Rocket

Masturbation Sleeves/Devices
Maven masturbation sleeve by Epiphora
Rubber Vaginas: In Good Fun? by CR/LF on Sex-Kitten.net

Lube/Massage Oil
Review: Climax Bursts Anal Lube by Rori of Between My Sheets
Sliquid Sassy Anal Lube! by Panthera Pardus
Babeland Naturals Organic Lube Naked by Sexorcism
Kama Sutra Massage Therapy Kit by Domina Doll on Viviane’s Sex Carnival
Himalayan White Tea Massage Oil Spray Review by Stiletto Diaries

Erotic Books/Games
Sex Toy Review: Strip Chocolate by Essin’ Em
PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions about Gender and Sexuality by Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek
Sex- Take A Walk on the Wild Side by The Butterfly Temptress

BDSM/Fetish
Liberate your mind, your body, your sex life! by Thursday’s Child
Rope Harvest by Ang
Doorjam Cuffs and Pinwheel by Urban Gypsy

Miscellaneous
Sextoy Review:: Roundup and Revisits by Dangerous Lilly
Velvet Harness by Alpine Subdreams
Luna Pleasure Bead System: by Lelo by Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek
Sex or Chocolate? Why not both (Lover’s Paintbox) by Domina Doll
Toy Review ~ Lelo Luna Beads by Sylvanus and Mina of At Longing’s End